What a huge loss. Your two little children loved their grandfathers and now they are no longer able to hug, comfort, play, and teach them. The children and you are grieving deeply. We are sad and extend our heart felt sympathies to you, to the boys, and to the rest of the family.?
?But the “why” of our experiences is only known to God. God is omniscient and all loving. When we become Christians, God becomes our personal Father. He knows about all of our lives. He knows even the smallest details – like the number of hairs in our head. However, God is not the cause of our sorrows. He does permit us to experience pain, suffering, loss, and death, but all of these evils are the result of Adam’s sin. Thus, Christians along with all mankind experience the suffering from sin and death together. ?
??However, Christians don’t grieve as do others. Paul wrote, “But I do not want you to be ignorant, brethren, concerning those who have fallen asleep, lest you sorrow as others who have no hope.” 1 Thessalonians 4:13 (NKJV) We have the sure hope of the resurrection. We know we will be reunited with our loved ones again. Thus, you know that you and your sons will see their beloved grandfathers again. Even though the loss is great now, the loss is not eternal.???
We do not know how God will help you through this grief. But He will. Peter wrote, “casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you.” 1 Peter 5:7 (NKJV) We are to “Rest in the LORD, and wait patiently for Him; Do not fret…” Psalm 37:7 (NKJV) God has promised He will comfort you and your sons. “As one whom his mother comforts, So I will comfort you…” Isaiah 66:13 (NKJV)??
However, we do want to be careful not to challenge God’s providential care. When Job asked God why all of these tragedies were happening to him (including the death of all of his children, loss of wealth, and loss of health), God answered in Job 38:1-40:2. “Moreover the LORD answered Job, and said: ‘Shall the one who contends with the Almighty correct Him?’” Job 40:1 (NKJV) Essentially, God asked Job questions about creation that Job could not begin to answer. God was teaching Job not to challenge Him. We need to have faith in God and believe that He loves us and will keep us even when we do not understand.??
Revelation 21:4, “And God will wipe away every tear from their eyes; there shall be no more death, nor sorrow, nor crying. There shall be no more pain, for the former things have passed away.”