Losing two babies is heart-breaking. Babies and children are exceedingly precious. More precious than diamonds. Grieving their death is painful. But you are not alone in grief. The psalmist Asaph wrote, 2 “In the day of my trouble I sought the Lord; My hand was stretched out in the night without ceasing; My soul refused to be comforted. 3 I remembered God, and was troubled; I complained, and my spirit was overwhelmed. Selah 4 You hold my eyelids open; I am so troubled that I cannot speak. … 9 Has God forgotten to be gracious? Has He in anger shut up His tender mercies? Selah 10 And I said, ‘This is my anguish; But I will remember the years of the right hand (a place of favor) of the Most High.’ ” Psalm 77:2-4, 9-10 (NKJV).
Death is a terrible enemy. How can you believe in God again? As the psalmist wrote: remember the times in your life when God blessed you. Remember the Bible stories and verses which attest to God’s love. (1 John 4:16.) Be assured that God never created people to die. Death came upon mankind as a result of Adam’s sin. (“As in Adam all die…” 1 Corinthians 15:22) We are all born dying. However, God has solemnly promised to resurrect your babies.
Jesus said, “Marvel not at this for the hour is coming in which all that are in their graves shall hear His voice and come forth.” John 5:28. Believe Jesus’s words. When Jesus reigns on Earth, He will resurrect all mankind and our families will be reunited. It will be wonderful.
Christ will teach all mankind love, justice, and knowledge so that peace will be universal. Then “God will wipe away every tear from their eyes; there shall be no more death, nor sorrow, nor crying. There shall be no more pain, for the former things have passed away. Then He who sat on the throne said, ‘Behold, I make all things new.’And He said to me, ‘Write, for these words are true and faithful.’ ” Revelation 21:4-5. Believe the scriptures.
Grieving is a process. Be gentle with yourself. Cry when you need to. Many communities have free grief support groups. People who are mourning attend the meetings and share their sorrows. It can be comforting to talk to other grieving parents. Yet, if you are having difficulty with your daily activities, it may be wise to talk to a counselor. He or she is a professional and can kindly guide you through your sorrows.